This excerpt from Fran Hauser’s book titled The Myth of the Nice Girl: Achieving a Career You Love Without Becoming a Person You Hate, talks about how women tend to use speech weakeners even if they don’t have to. It offers an in-depth look into her own psyche as a woman who apologizes too much. This, she believes, puts women in a weaker position thus further reinforcing the subservient female stereotype.
This has to stop.
Hauser tells the story of how she came to this realization because she noticed how she kept unnecessarily apologizing in her emails. In order to prevent the same thing from happening to other women, she makes us more aware of the different kinds of often used speech weakeners that we may already be incorporating in our daily communication.
Towards the end of her article, she gives helpful advice on what to say instead when we feel the urge to say sorry. She also gives us specific scenarios in which we shouldn’t be so apologetic.